Emotions

What Is Stress?

Stress, what exactly is stress? We all know what it feels like, but is stress an emotion? The answer is no. Stress is a combination of emotions, common emotions include fear, worry, anxiety, dread and anger. Whatever the particular cocktail of emotions your stress include they all carry the same message, you're in the midst of something overwhelming or about to face a task or situation that is greater than your current resources or abilities.  
 

Stress in small doses helps prepare us for tasks, situations and events. Studying for the big test, preparing for an important meeting, having that tough conversation with a family member. 
 

Ongoing stress and habitual stress starts to create havoc on the body, rather than helping you to prepare for an event you begin to crumble and waste away from the inside out.  
 

The first step towards dealing with stress is to stop labeling it as stress, find out the emotions that are included in your stress cocktail. Your emotions are a road map to your thoughts, once you've identified your emotions you can start identifying helpful and unhelpful thoughts. Encourage helpful thoughts and challenge unhelpful ones.  
 

If you're flooded by your emotions, you may need to practice some relaxation techniques before your able to do thought work.  
 

One of the most powerful relaxation techniques is controlling your breathing. A simple breathing practice involves slowing your breathing by extending your exhalation longer than your inhalation. Vary your breathing times based on your health and what works for you individually. A good place to start is a 4-4-6-2 Breath in 1...2...3....4 Hold 1...2...3....4 Exhale 1...2...3....4....5....6 Hold 1...2 repeat 

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Struggling With Anger?

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For guys anger is often a celebrated and accepted emotion, but it can have devastating effects on your family, friends and career.  I hope to breakdown what anger is and what anger is not. Anger is an emotion and like all emotions, serves a good purpose when understood and used correctly. 

Anger signifies that your boundaries, values or rules have been broken. Anger asks us to restore the boundaries, values or rules that have been violated.  If you weren't able to experience the emotion of anger, justice, self-preservation and self-worth would be impossible. When someone disrespects you, anger gives you the energy and focus to seek restoration, this may mean a conversation needs to happen or distance needs to be sought to keep you safe.  

Anger becomes a problem when it's used to protect you from your fear, anxiety, guilt, shame or responsibility. Anger is a powerful emotion and it allows you to feel justified in seeking to get your needs met. Have you ever felt guilty for something you did and when confronted, instead of taking ownership, you attacked the person who confronted you? Anger was misused, the energy and focus that comes from anger was used to focus on someone else's faults instead of owning your own. Anger was acting as a defense to push others away. Over time you become a victim to life and push friends, family and co-workers away. Anger has become a means of survival rather than a means of restoration.  

If you're struggling with anger, or have a loved one that struggles, help is available. I work to understand the thoughts and emotions that lie at the center of hurtful anger and help to identify ways to meet needs in a healthy way. Anger doesn't have to rule you and you don't need to fear it.   

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Are You Stressed?

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Small amounts of stress are healthy, there are situations and problems in life that demand our attention and energy. Stress can be a powerful motivator to make life changes. We get into unhealthy ruts that compound problems until a breaking point, we must make a positive change or break under the weight of life’s challenges. Stress that lingers, or becomes overwhelming can have negative effects on all aspects of the person. 

When continually stressed your body remains in a fight or flight state. Our fight or flight state operates out of the limbic region of the brain. The limbic region of the brain controls major functions of the body that operate with little or no thought. Our heart rate, blood pressure, digestive system and emotional state shifts based off of environmental strains and threats. When you stay in heightened stress your immune system slows making you more susceptible to illness. Your body stops normal processes that don't immediately aid in your survival, like digestion. The end result is poor nutrient intake, stomach pain and bowel issues, which leads to more stress and becomes an endless loop.       

 
How to reduce your stress  

  • The easiest solution is to get out of the stressful activity or situation. This may mean a job change, relationship change or creating boundaries with friends and family. 

 

  • In many cases it isn't appropriate or possible to leave the stress event/activity. Identify the catalyst of the stress, thoroughly exam its origin, triggers and your current method of coping. Ask yourself these questions, How can I actively work on the source of my stress? Can I allocate some of my responsibilities to someone else? Can I seek guidance from someone that understand the source of my stress better? Can I create some boundaries that better meet my needs and still address the stressor? How am I currently taking care of myself before and after the stressful event? Are my coping methods making things better or worse?   

 

  • Acknowledge your stress, identify associated feelings, write them down or say them out loud. Doing this alone can reduce the magnitude of emotions you feel. The next step would be to share them with a friend, spouse or family member who is safe and supportive. We are genetically wired to be relational, just by sharing your pain, feeling heard and cared for, you can reduce your current level of stress. 

 

  • Cry. Tears contain cortisol, a stress hormone in the body. When you cry your release cortisol and feel less stress. 

 

  • Workout. Working out has been shown to be as effective as an antidepressant. When you workout your body releases endorphins that make you feel good. Sometimes progress in other areas of your life take time, working out can be a way to experience small goals and reinforce the ability to make positive changes in your life. 

 

  • Change your mindset. Sometimes our expectations and "rules of life" are harsh and unforgiving, by changing our mindset and giving room for growth, failure and grace we free ourselves to experience life at its fullest.   

 

Try theses strategies today!

 

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Emotions, Can't Live With Them, Can't Live Without Them

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Are emotions vital to daily life?

Source for Elliot:

http://www.smh.com.au/national/feeling-our-way-to-decision-20090227-8k8v.html

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All information and opinions shared on this blog are for educational purposes only. Please contact me or another mental health care provider for diagnosis and treatment.

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